Sunday, July 16, 2017

Fitness and essential oils (Jared's first post!)

Hey friends! Welcome to the newly restructured Love Wyns written by both myself, Lily, and my incredible Fiance, Jared. I am so excited that my future hubs has asked to hop in on the blog from time to time, making this truly our space. So without further introductions, I give you Jared's very first blog! (Insert round of applause here)


As many of you know my fiance has a degree in Kinesiology (a big word for all things health and wellness) and knows a lot about exercise physiology and the science behind working out. I on the other hand, am an active participant in the gym life and various sports. Together we are the dream team so to speak.

I spend a lot of time researching new workouts and which supplements I should take to help improve my overall performance and recovery. You can look on any workout/body building site and find a common thread in the types of recommendations made for athletes; water, BMI maintenance, pre-workout, protein, Omega 3s, and amino acids.

When Lily started using Young Living products and essential oils, I realized I didn't really know where my supplements were coming from. Did you know the FDA doesn't regulate supplements? Some athletes have even tested positive on drug tests after using supplements, because there's hardly any regulation on labeling. It's important to know what you're putting into your body. When Lily told me about YL's seed to seal promise and their commitment to producing quality products, I started looking into how I might convert my old supplements to using Young Living products, where I know I am getting what the label says. Today I am going to break down my 6 essentials (no pun intended) for working out and staying healthy....here we go!

1. Water 

 

I know this is a no brainier but we all know that as a society, we struggle to drink the appropriate amount of water daily and even more so when we are working out. I have found that adding a drop of my favorite vitality oil can make drinking water more enjoyable and can give it an added therapeutic benefit, specifically, peppermint and grapefruit.

2. BMI maintenance

 

Not only do I use peppermint and grapefruit vitality in my water because they taste good but they also help to promote focus during workouts and help maintain a healthy BMI, which is important for showing off your muscles.

3. Protein

 There are countless over the counter protein supplements these days and it's easy to get caught up in the latest and greatest. For me, the choice is simple. YL protein complete. This is a fantastic protein powder because it:
  1. Provides an excellent source of protein via a 5 protein blend. 
  2. provides a full range of amino acids 
  3. supports ATP production in the body (Your body's fuel!) 
  4. Supports the body in building lean muscle 

4.  Amino Acids

 While the protein powder does provide a full spectrum of amino acids, I know many people like to supplement amino acids post workout to aid in recovery and muscle building and repair.  AminoWise from YL not only tastes delicious (Wolfberry lemonade!) but it also provides a blend of amino acids(and essential oils of course) which help reduce muscle fatigue, promote lean muscle building and to replenish important minerals lost during exercise.

5. Pre-workout


 Like many other supplements, pre-workout is not regulated, I had a coworker recently who developed an ulcer from his pre-workout supplement, scary stuff! My alternative is Ningxia Nitro! These tiny squeeze packets give you a quick pick-me-up without sugar or caffeine as well as supporting cognitive and physical fitness. Ningxia Nitro is the perfect thing to throw in your gym bag and use before a workout after a 10-hour work day.

6. Omega 3s

 Omega 3s are important for joint health, especially when running and lifting weights. OmegaGize is the Omega 3 supplement that supports your brain, heart, eye and joint health (all things necessary to be a great athlete).  This supplement also contains Vitamin D which is another thing that most Americans are deficient in. And, of course, it has essential oils too!


If you choose to use one or all of the above, these products will transform your workout game. You'll rest rest easy knowing your products come from a quality source and your body will thank you. This is just a snapshot of the products Young Living provides to help people live healthy lives, if you'd like more information please feel free to contact us or, visit our oils page. 

Thanks for reading my first post, I look forward to writing more soon.

-Jared

Monday, June 26, 2017

The Pink Drink Phenomena

My Name is Lily and I am addicted to Pink Drinks.

If you follow me on instagram, you'd have to blind not to notice my love of pink drinks. I probably post about them weekly and it's because I am so addicted. I am talking the kind of addicted when you go to Starbs multiple times a day. Ad we all know how fantastic that is for your bank account. Today I am not here to talk about the drink itself but rather, what it means to me.

Oh yeah, the Pink Drink just became a symbol ya'll!

To me the pink drink represents a few things.
1. Financial freedom.
2. Friendship
3. Adventure

Shall we break those down? Let's...

Financial Freedom: 

Ok, I am sure you're rolling your eyes right about now, but I'm serious! The Pink Drink represents financial freedom to me. Why? Because it is because of my Young Living checks that I get to splurge and have some Starbs more often than I used to. My YL check is not huge but it's already giving me small freedoms, like a Pink Drink a few times a week (or day...). I'm rockin' this YL thing because it's given my friends countless reasons to celebrate freedom beyond a silly Starbucks drink and that makes me so excited.

Friendship:

I order a pink drink every time I grab coffee with a friend. Unless I'm at my favorite local place, then I get a chai. The pink drink to me represents countless conversations with my people, my tribe. It represents the goodbyes said to friends when I left my college town to move home, it represents reconnecting with old friends and mentors and it even represents making new connections on social media. Ya'll online friends are kinda cool if you didn't know.

Adventure: 

The Pink Drink to me stands for adventure. I always make a Starbucks run before any road trip or big day. This summer alone the Pink Drink has been my companion as I drive across Colorado to move, as I road tripped to Utah for the YL convention, as i started my internship and as I mingled with over 30,000 essential oil users at convention. With a pink drink in hand, there's no adventure I can't conquer.


So yes, this post was silly but wrapped up in my Pink Drink obsession is so much more than a delicious, pretty drink with strawberries, it's truly become my mascot in life. So, are you #TeamPinkDrink?


Tuesday, June 6, 2017

Anything But Cute


Yesterday when I told someone I had a kinesiology degree they proceeded to tell me how "cute" it was that I got my degree in fitness and health promotion...ummm What?!

I'd like to start off by saying that I know that this person did not mean to be rude or hurtful (and I have no hard feelings!)  but nonetheless, the comment still stung. It's also not the first time someone has said this to me. I am a grown, educated, (soon to be), married woman and quite frankly, my education doesn't deserve to be diminished by someone calling it cute.

OK, I get it, I'm a dancer and most people don't associate dance with sports. Here's the thing though, being a dancer requires an innate ability to know your body and kinesiology goes hand in hand with the body mechanics of dance. Dancers are athletes, and kinesiology is actually a popular thing for dance majors to either double major in or minor in. So there's one myth debunked.

OK, but I'm a girly girl. I like to wear dresses. In fact, I wore a dress every single day for the entire month of December to raise awareness for human trafficking. Did I wear a dress to every single one of my kinesiology classes?  Why, yes, I sure did. And was I capable of completing everything asked of me in those courses? Why yes, yes I was. Being girly doesn't mean I cannot major in an exercise field of study, it doesn't mean I'm incapable of nerding out over the Bod Pod or Vo2 Max testing, it just means I might do those things (and have done those things) wearing a dress.

So now that we've established what might be construed as "cute", let's talk about what definitely is not..

  • It's not cute that I worked my booty off to graduate with a 4 year degree in 3 years.
  • It's not cute that I worked at FedEx, with all men, pushing cans that weighed well over 2,000 lbs into a plane...in the snow...with no heat...all to get tuition reimbursement.
  • It's not cute that I sometimes worked 40 hour weeks while attending school full time.
  • It's not cute that I can name the origins and insertions of more muscles than most people know exist.
  • It's not cute that I can give you accurate nutrition advice.
  • It's not cute that I got educated. Period.

See, no matter what misconceptions you have about me being girly or not athletic, you don't have the right to undermine my hard work, and my passion, by telling me that me having my degree is "cute". I LOVED every single second of my education. I loved writing papers on exercise physiology or reading studies on the latest in nutrition. I love knowing how my body works and how your body works. I love knowing that exercise is medicine and that eating right can prevent chronic disease. I love kinesiology, it's my jam.

So unless you're complementing my on my adorable outfit, please don't associate me with the word "cute", you can associate me with these words instead...
  • Passionate
  • Hardworking
  • Loving
  • Kind
  • Brave
  • Servant
  • Friend
  • Educator
  • Healthy
  • Strong
  • Athletic
  • Intelligent
  • Outgoing
  • Joyful
  • Funny
  • Educated
  • Professional
  • Honest
Just please...anything but cute.




Wednesday, May 31, 2017

The Leibster Award

This week I've been nominated for the Leibster award by two fabulous bloggers. This award is given to bloggers by bloggers and I am honored that members of this community thought of me. This is such a fun way to build friendships and community within this blogger life and so I am pumped to be a part of this!

The rules for the Liebster Award are:
  1. You can choose to either accept or decline. Accepting means writing a post, which you don’t have to do, but it helps to continue spreading the love!
  2. Write a list of 11 facts about yourself.
  3. Answer the 11 questions from your nominator.
  4. Nominate 11 other bloggers to keep the award going, and give them 11 questions to answer.
So lets get started, shall we?

11 facts about me:

  1. I have been a dancer for 18 years! I've practiced a bunch of disciplines but my favorites are ballet, jazz and modern.
  2. I have a beagle! His full name is Rizzo Beezli Wyn (Go Cubbies!)  and he's basically the cutest dog of all time. Beagles are actually a family thing. My dad grew up with beagles so I knew I wanted a beagle when I got a dog someday and now I think I snagged the very best one.
  3. I studied Kinesiology in College and I absolutely LOVE helping to educate people on how to live healthier lives.
  4. I'm engaged! My fiancé's name is Jared Wyn and he's pretty swell.
  5. My fiancé and I met on a Young Life college retreat where we argued over a game of shuffleboard.
  6. I am absolutely terrified of crawfish. Don't ask me why, they're just so creepy!
  7. I am a nerd for all things Harry Potter. I've read the 7th book 17 times (and counting).
  8. Aside from Harry Potter, I love reading fantasy and most of the books I read can be found in the kids section. I have no shame.
  9. When I was in 7th grade I broke my elbow from falling off a bunk bed on a youth retreat. I was such a drama queen  back that nobody believed I was seriously injured until I'd been crying for 3 hours from pain.
  10. I LOVE student ministry. It's my jam. I think my students are some of the most amazing humans and my heart swells with pride when I see them make leaps and strides in their faith.
  11. I am a Jesus freak. Don't like it? I don't care. I love me some Jesus.
I've decided to answer questions from both lovely ladies who nominated me. To check out their blogs, simply clock their name!

First up are Cassie's :
1. What made you want to start blogging?
I started blogging as a way to share my life with family and friend and to get out all the things I wanted to say to the world, I honestly didn't expect to love it so much.

2. If money weren’t a factor, what would be your dream job?
My dream job is to be a Royal Crown Diamond with Young Living. It's a huge goal of mine aside from being my dream job. I want to share about wellness and have financial freedom like I've seen so many of my friends achieve.

3. Do you like to travel or are you more of a homebody?
Can you be both? I like to travel but I love having a home to come home to.

4. Could you ever see yourself living in another state or possibly country in the future?
Nope. I'm a Colorado girl all the way.

5. What’s your motto?
For the last few months, I've been living by the famous words of T-Swift... "Shake it off"

6. If you could eat dinner with any one, dead or alive, who would it be? Why?
I'd like to eat dinner with Idini Menzel because aside from her being an absolutely talented goddess, she also does a lot of good for kids and supporting the arts in the lives of young people which I think is important.

7. What place would you consider to be your “happy place?”
I don't go there often now but when someone asks me to picture it, it's always the camp I grew up going to.

8. Do you play any sports?
Dance is a sport. But if you'd like me to throw a ball, I'm out.

9. What makes you unique?
I like both science and the arts which is a unique blend of passions.

10. If you made a perfume, what would it be called?
Love Wyns, duh!

11. Who would play you in a movie about your life?
Me!

and now for Mary-Faith's questions...

1. What is your favorite thing about blogging?
My favorite thing is being able to express what I want to talk about and make it all pretty and appealing to an audience.

2. Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook?
Insta.

3. If you could go back and change one thing about your life, such as a decision you made, would you? And what would it be?
I firmly believe that our past shapes us into who we are but if I could still be me and end up where I did there is one thing I'd change. I'd never date anyone until I met Jared. Oh how I wish I'd listened when they told me that I should wait. It would be so special to have only ever been with him.

4. What is another culture that you would like to know more about?
I'd like to know more about Native American culture.

5.What charitable causes are you passionate about?
Ending human trafficking. It's why I participated in Dressember this last year. I worse a dress every single day in December to raise awareness.

6.What is your favorite holiday and why?
CHRISTMAS!!!!!! I love snow and all things Christmas time. It's just magical.

7.Which one of Jesus’ characteristics (compassion, humility, etc.) means the most to you or has influenced you the most and why?
I would say his ability to love the unlovelable. He truly loved the outcasts and the "sinners" and that's what I strive to do in my life.

8.What is the greatest gift God has given you?
Jared. (Awww, mushy.)

9. What is your favorite fairytale?
Is Harry Potter a fairy tale? If not, then probably the Little mermaid.

10. How do you feel about vegetables?
Love 'em.

11. Who are some of your heroes and why?
Kari Lewis, she's a Young Living leader who fosters kiddos. Her heart for foster kids is admirable in so many ways and how she is being the hands and feet of Jesus is inspiring. Not to mention, she's one heck of a leader to us Young Living peeps.

Megan Glynn Zollinger, my dance professor from CMU. She taught me so much about dance and about life and I'm better for having known her. I look up to her like none other.

Police officers. They have it rough these days with everyone hating all that police stand for but I have immense respect for our men and women in blue. They do things I never could. I am so proud of my friends who wear the uniform and for all who serve us day to day without recognition.


and last but not least...my nominees (whose blogs I adore) and questions for them! Most of my blogging friends have already done this so I just did 7, it rhymes with 11 ok?! I'm a rule breaker I suppose.

  1. Jess
  2. Sydney
  3. Anna
  4. Celina
  5. Tracy
  6. Megan
  7. Allison

Questions:
  1. Why did you start blogging?
  2. What keeps you blogging?
  3. Who are the most important people in your life?
  4. What's your nickname?
  5. Who do you admire the most?
  6. Who is your mentor?
  7. What defines you?
  8. What do you do for fun?
  9. Cats or dogs?
  10. What state do you want to visit the most?
  11. What do you do to stay active?




Monday, May 8, 2017

He is not less-than

Yesterday I saw yet another romantic viral video. I'm sure you've seen the ones, where the guy goes through some extravagant day for his girlfriend. He brings her puppies, buys her favorite foods and by the end of it you're sure it's a proposal. This one didn't end in a marriage proposal but rather a simple statement "guys, the bar has been raised". This got me thinking, and then festering and then, honestly, fuming. See, these viral videos aren't a reflection of real life or real love. The bar has indeed been raised but, it's not a good thing. Let me tell you why.


1. Real love doesn't go viral.

It's just that simple. Because real, true, deep love is reflected in the small moments. It's when your significant other does the dishes when you really don't want to, or when they give you a big hug after a long day, or when they let you watch Grey's Anatomy even though they hate that show. Real love isn't anything fancy, it's doing life together and supporting each other. The more we get caught up in this idea that real love means extravagant gestures, the more harm we are doing to ourselves. See, if I expect something big, I'll be vastly disappointed when I come to realize the real side of true love. If I stand there waiting for a camera crew and a basket full of puppies, I'll be hurt when I get a heartfelt note or test message instead. By expecting viral-worthy gestures, we diminish the small, meaningful ones.

2. He is not less-than.

When we put weight into these videos we forget to realize that not every guy was made to be this viral video making genius. If every guy were, it would become boring real fast. Not every man has a built in gage for thoughtfulness. Heck, if I want flowers I have to hint forever to get them, and that's OK! Flowers don't define Jared's love for me and neither do grad gestures. If we make these gestures a requirement, we turn away men who just aren't made to go viral. We turn away potentially wonderful human beings all because we want the 5 minutes of fame to say "look at what my boyfriend did!" Love isn't about bragging, love isn't about who is better, love is about sacrifice and doing life together...even when life is boring.  So no, my fiancé is not less than that guy who "raised the bar" just because he didn't get me a basket of puppies or a Lyft ride in a fancy car and your boyfriend/fiancé/ husband should not be made to feel bad if he doesn't do these things either.


Sure, thoughtfulness is a wonderful thing and should be appreciated and encouraged but just because you don't get a grand gesture, doesn't mean your love is less-than.


3. What raising the bar should look like

Raising the bar shouldn't be about who can do the most romantic thing because, as we've discussed, that's just not realistic. However I do think we need to raise the bar. How about we raise the bar and teach men that we are worthy of respect? How about we don't let a hot guy treat us like crap just because we want to be with him?  How about we stop making excuses for men who are jerks by saying, "he's just a typical guy"? How about we raise the bar and start going on dates instead of Netflix and chill? How about we raise the bar that way?

Raising the bar could do so much good for society and yet, we get caught up in the superficial side of things. We want these big romantic gestures but don't desire to do the real work it takes to keep a relationship going.  Relationships are work, plain and simple and no amount of romance is going to change that.

4. Good guys do exist

Okay so not every man is going to give you a viral-worthy gesture but that doesn't mean that great guys don't exist. I know they do, I'm marrying one. Maybe if we stop looking for love in the wrong places, we'll find genuine connections. If we stop putting pressure on guys to be this picture perfect boyfriend then maybe the good guys will be able to step forward without fear of failure.

We have to stop saying that the good guys don't exist simply because we've only run into jerks or because no guys have ever brought you a basket full of puppies. Demand the respect you deserve and you just may be surprised at who sticks around. Don't let someone talk to you in a way that makes you feel bad about yourself, you have the power over who is in your life so use it. And, while your first date may not go viral, you just might find a guy worth keeping.



So no mister viral video, you didn't "raise the bar", you just made women's expectations even more unrealistic. True love doesn't go viral and that's OK because true love is so much better than words could ever express.

Thursday, May 4, 2017

Why Young Living is my Dream Job



Recently I've had a few people ask me why I decided to jump all in with a Young Living business and so I thought I'd give you all a little insight to the YL business side as well as why I chose Young Living over other companies.

The first thing you should know is that I never thought I'd be into multi-level marketing. I find that many MLM business models annoy people online and are very in your face. While I applaud anyone who rocks an MLM business, that style of things is so not me. So when I saw my friends sharing about Young Living, I didn't even realize it was an MLM company at first! This is because the team that I am a part of believes wholeheartedly in sharing, not selling. You'll never find me being obnoxious with posts that sound more like an infomercial than a Facebook post, I just like to share how I use my oils on the daily. Because I do, in fact, use them on the daily. I LOVE my oils and I  truly believe every household needs them in their life but no, I won't be shoving them down your throat. That's just not who I am and if you join my team, it's not who I expect you to be either.

So onto that whole dream job part...



#1. I LOVE me some oils

When I first got my kit, I didn't want to do the business at all but I quickly fell in love with my oils and couldn't help but share about the bottles that were changing my life. See, we're literally putting poison on our skin every single day through cosmetics, lotions, perfumes and especially cleaning products and I believe that essential oils are the fix to that. I love that there's natural products to replace the junk I used to use. I use oils as perfume, I use YL lotions, shampoo and soap and I even use Thieves cleaner which has replaced all of  my toxic cleaning products. We care so much about eating organically these days and yet, we forget about the crap that we are putting into our bodies just by putting it onto our skin.

I am passionate about the power of essential oils, passionate about health and wellness (umm hello, I'm a kinesiology major!!) and I am passionate about living as much of a toxin-free life as possible. I couldn't think of anything more fitting to who I am than running an essential oils business; promoting health and natural wellness every single day. I believe that every single person could benefit from essential oils and their many uses and that why I love this business.

I mean, how can you not LOVE oils when they do all this?!


#2. It's not too late! 

In many things, only those who get in early actually make any money. Not the case with Young Living. They have been a world leader in essential oils for longer than I have been alive and yet, I have friends running million dollar per month businesses with Young Living and they joined less than 3 years ago. This is incredible to me and one huge reason why this job is my dream job. I can hit big goals and never be afraid that I got in too late.

#3. It's not a pyramid scheme.
I could rant about this all day but I'll just brush on it. Pyramid schemes are illegal. End of story.   A pyramid scheme is when you pay for a product and never receive it. And I am currently holding my bottle of stress away essential oil so... debunked.

I'd also like to point out that literally every business is a pyramid. Every one. The difference with MLMs is that instead of spending money on rent, marketing, and other typical business costs, Young Living invests that money into us as distributors. They have no brick and mortar stores which enables them to give more to their employees. It's a great business model.



But Lily. Nobody makes money with MLM companies, it's a lie! Not true friend. I make make money, my friends make more money in a month than they did in a year and they are real people. People who don't have success with an MLM  typically fall into two categories. 1. they don't get good training or 2. they give up quickly. That won't be me. I have a fantastic team with the best resources around and I am not quitting. I mean, the average Young Living Diamond's salary is $38,000 PER MONTH so you bet I'm motivated to get there. Which brings me to my next point...

#4 Young Living gives me the chance to dream big

Even with a doctorate degree in Kinesiology (which by the way, I am not shooting for), I could never dream to make upwards of  $38,000 per month. Never. Young Living has given me the opportunity to dream. I dream about selfish stuff like buying my dream house but I also dream about all the good I could do; funding adoptions, mission trips, helping those in need, getting people access to fresh water and helping to educate those in third world countries--just to name a few. The sad truth is that good deeds can cost money and I dream of being able to do a lot of good someday.



#5 My "co-workers" are the bomb-diggity

Seriously this community is the biggest blessing. I didn't know what I was getting into when I got my kit. This Lemon Dropper/Modern Oiler/Happy Oiler/Fethra collective life is the best life. These people have been the biggest support system and become some of my greatest friends. I would do this business all over again just for the community alone. oily people are truly the best people and I wouldn't trade this oily life for anything.



So there you have it folks, just a few reasons why young Living is my dream job. I'm not one to talk business a lot but I wanted to share my heart on the topic. I love this company and these "co-workers" of mine so deeply, i love the opportunity to dream and I love that I know real people just like you and me who are achieving financial freedom by doing something they love. And i'm doing it too. if you want to char more about how to dip your toes into this life, I'd be happy to share more with yo. But for now, thanks for tuning in, I'll see you next time!

xo,
Lily

Sunday, April 16, 2017

Haters gonna hate

Navigating the world when you have a sensitive heart. 

**BREAKING NEWS*** as it turns out, Taylor Swift was right this whole time, haters gonna hate. Now this post isn't really about the haters but rather, the whole concept of shaking off the negativity in your life. See, I am a pro at negative self-talk and also letting other people's negativity influence my life and letting it undermine my worth.  These last few months have been a journey for me, a journey of learning to see my value, of learning that my sensitive heart has it's place but that I cannot let the over-thinking consume my life, because then it controls my life. So turn on some T-Swift and let me give you my top 5 tips for shaking off those haters.



1. Buh-bye

No, seriously, send that negativity out the door. Weather it's distancing yourself from a negative person or learning how to give yourself positive self-talk, you have to get rid of the bad vibes. For me, sometimes it's unfollowing someone on Facebook or looking at positive affirmations that other people have given me. You have to do find what works for you top say goodbye to the darkness or it will eat away at your happiness. It might make you feel like you want to throw up when you first begin to distance yourself from someone or something negative but it does get better, I promise.

2. Know your worth

Maybe it sounds like an inspirational quote but for real, know your worth. There's nothing more important than coming to the discovery that you have value. For those of us with sensitive hearts, it can seem self-absorbed but there's a difference between having a big head and knowing that you're important. I had this realization sitting on the floor of the dance studio last week as my eyes welled with tears. I spoke about always being so intimidated by the talented dancers around me than I forget to find my sense of self when I dance. I get so caught up in saying "I'm not as good as them" and I forget that just because I am different, does not mean I am less than.  This applies to everyday life too, stop comparing yourself to those around you and just thrive in your own skin, free to be who you really are.

3. Stand up for yourself. 

Please, for the love of all things good...do it...stand up. You have the power to speak up when you don't like the way you're being treated. You have the power to stand up against your own negative self-talk. You alone. I hate conflict ya'll, truly, but I'm starting to realize that I cannot go through life with an "You're right, I'm sorry" attitude. Sometimes the way people treat you isn't OK and you're the only person who can tell them that.  We just talked about knowing your worth, so dang it, you're worth standing up for! Don't let anyone (including yourself!) talk you out of being strong enough to stand firm on your worth and stand up for being treated with dignity and respect.

4. Don't let it consume you

I recently heard a quote, "What consumes your thoughts controls your life" how true is that, am I right? I am the queen of replaying scenarios in my mind thinking of all the things I could have said. It's maddening. Sometimes I find myself thinking about situations that happened years ago, that has to change. You have to get out of your head because you have to live life in the moment. You don't have a time machine (If you do, can I borrow it?) so there's no use, repeat, no use in replaying things over and over. There's also no use in carrying negative feelings around. Okay, someone hurt you, cry about it as all sensitive people do, and move on. That sounds harsh but if you let a dark cloud rain on you, you'll never get dry. You wouldn't stand outside in the cold rain all day when  you know there's a heater and dry clothes inside, would you? So why stay in a negative head space when you know good and well that there's better things a head. Take it day by day but trust me, it gets better. Shake it off!

5. Guard your heart 

Proverbs 4:23 tells us to guard our hearts above all else. This doesn't just apply to dating my friends. Guard it fiercely. If you take the time to invest in yourself you're heart won't be broken by the negative self- talk because you'll know you have value. If you guard your heart and get to know people before declaring them you #bestie, you're heart won't be broken when they turn out to be Regina George from Mean Girls. Ask Ellen, one of my favorite humans, we had a legitimate conversation about calling one another "best friend" because I'm so guarded about that term, that term holds weight for me. Sometimes you have to do what's best for your heart.



So there you have it my friends, 5 easy steps you can take daily to shake off the haters, even if the hater is yourself through negative self-talk. You have value and you're worth so much more than you'll ever know. So, shake it off my love!

xo,
Lily